You dreamt of it; you planned and prepared for it; you learned about it all your life -  and then, like most of us, you had the temple wedding of your dreams.   You followed the path we have been taught;  you  may have had children; you got busy with family life, with your professional and work responsibilities, with service in the church.                                                      And along the pathway, you discovered that real married life, even with all you know from a gospel point-of-view, can become ordinary - or challenging.    Sometimes really challenging - even hard.   What do you do when the temple wedding of your dreams, becomes the marriage that - as hard as it is admit - has lost the magic or is harder than you anticipated it would be? Where do you turn for help, when you are seeking personalized, professional guidance to put the oomph back in your temple marriage, or to help you transform your marriage from okay to outstanding?   Who can you trust, when you may be feeling::                              Vulnerable                Hurt                Angry               Discouraged               Out of control               Depressed               Alone                Embarrassed  Concerned that conventional help may be contrary to your values and beliefs If the picture of a happy LDS couple  may not be your experience?         Joan and Bob* came to see me on the verge of separation.  They had been married for 23 years, raised four children together, and built a successful business.  They had many years of conflictual communication, unhealed hurts and misunderstandings that had created a large wedge of anger and resentment between them.  Joan thought that Bob worked too much, and wanted more time for “pre-retirement” travel.  Bob saw six more years of looming college and other expenses and thought he couldn’t let up.   Bob felt misunderstood and unappreciated, and started spending even more time at the office.  Joan felt alone and taken advantage of.  One thing led to another; Bob began flirting with a woman who worked for him,  while Joan began going to bed alone and angry.  Meanwhile the mutual hurt, anger, misunderstanding and resentment escalated until Bob began spending nights at a local hotel.  They contacted me the day after Bob had spent three nights in one week away from home.  I helped them release all the stress and built up hurt, anger and misunderstandings between them.  They learned to express their feelings, needs and points of view in a way that brought understanding and reconciliation to their marriage.  With my help and guidance they were able to find solutions that worked for both of them, to Bob’s concerns about money and Joan’s desire for time together.   What’s more the couple learned how they had gotten into the situation they were in, healed the invisible roots of their marriage problems. It wasn’t always easy; a lot had to be worked through, released and healed.  As they worked together with my help to heal and restore their marriage, the love that had worn thin between them, came to full bloom once again, and was doubly sweet because of the struggle they had experienced. Joan and Bob celebrated their 24th anniversary toward the end of their personalized Creating Joy for Couples! program, by going on a Caribbean cruise – the first vacation they had taken together for over six years.  They both came back glowing like newlyweds. Together, their dream of a happy, emotionally-fulfilling marriage was reignited.  *Names and essential identifying details have been changed to safeguard the confidentiality of these clients.  '       tra           aand and  The  The story of these clients' transformational journey in their marriage is true.                   Come to the Center for Great Marriages                and Relationship Healing We specialize in providing specialized coaching, classes, telecourses, retreats and workshops to empower LDS couples to make the ideal of the happy Mormon couple their living experience. I am Debra Brown Gordy, founder of the Center.  Years ago, I began this journey myself.  I was married and had two beautiful little girls, and was struggling to find the answers for my own happiness and how to make my own temple marriage a happy one - so I knew first hand the heartache, the pain, the anger, the frustration, and yes - the embarrassment - that what I most wanted in life eluded me, despite my best efforts.  On my journey to the happy marriage I now so gratefully enjoy, I was inspired to complete my graduate degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at BYU.  I have also been privileged to previously work for LDS Family Services.  I practiced as an LDS relationship therapist and marriage counselor for over twenty years.  Through the ensuing years, I have been guided in finding Christ-centered answers and solutions, that support couples to heal the underlying reasons for their relationship and marriage challenges, and discover their own innate wholeness and well-being, and how to find the happiness in marriage they seek.  I have synthesized the wisdom and insights from my years of specialty as an LDS relationship therapist and marriage counselor, with life and relationship coaching and the healing power of Energy Psychology.   I have been blessed to serve thousands of LDS women and couples as I guide and support them in finding the answers and solutions for their own marriage challenges, to get out of the marriage doldrums, and then go beyond that to truly flourishing and thriving in their marriages and personal lives.                                                       "Eternity only can satisfy the love I long for, and the love I have to give . . ." David O. McKay to his fiancee, Emma

Does This Speak to Your Heart? If what you have read here resonates with your heart’s desire, and you are ready to end your relationship problems for good, get out of the marriage doldrums,  and create an eternal love in your temple marriage, I invite you to participate in a special opportunity – a Creating Eternal Love! Consultation.        In these 30-minute phone consultations, you will gain: Increased clarity about what you really want in your marriage   Insights about what is in your way to achieving it    Extreme motivation    Renewed hope and belief in yourself and your marriage and that you can achieve the temple marriage of your heart's desire!

For Such a Time as This in Your Life or Marriage  For over twenty-five years, I have been guiding LDS women, men and couples to:   End their marriage or relationship problems for good  Get off the Relationship Roller Coaster  Heal the underlying reasons and invisible roots  for their patterns of relationship pain   and struggle  Learn the secrets - the timeless principles, practices and skills - for creating the happy, lasting, emotionally-close eternal marriage of their dreams. Synthesizing the expertise, insights and wisdom I gained from over two decades as an LDS marriage and family relationship therapist and counselor,  with Christ-centered life and relationship coaching principles and practices into Flourish Life and Relationship Coaching™, I guide women and men to quickly and gracefully gain freedom from the pain of the past, end their relationship problems, and create a new beginning and inner foundation for a happy, eternal marriage.    I know the pain and heart-ache of marital conflict first-hand, having been previously divorced myself.    That was the past; I am now happily married to a wonderful man – and together, we have a joyful, heart-centered. mutually fulfilling union.  Through the journey to my own happy marriage, I have discovered the secrets to lasting relationship harmony and love in the real world - the secrets to creating the foundation for Eternal Love.      Susan* is a divorced mother of 5, who contacted me three years after her divorce.  All her life, she has always wanted and dreamed of her own “Happily Ever After” marriage and family, and was devastated by her divorce.  Three years after the final decree, though she had learned to cope, the pain, guilt, anger and grief she felt inside was still intense. She sought out help to let go of the intense pain from the past, and be able to go forward in her life with joy and confidence, and create the Happily Ever After marriage she knows she is destined for. Together we worked to find and heal the invisible roots of her relationship problems, especially to help her learn the lessons that were there for her to learn from her divorce, and to gain the inner core of confidence that comes to women when we are securely anchored in our true selves.  Susan is committed to her dream, and she worked with focus to release and heal the pain, anger, guilt and grief from her past marriage, and claim the birthright to her happy marriage that is her dream and destiny. As she was completing her Happily Ever After! program, Susan wrote: "Thank you so much Debra. I appreciate all of your help in getting me to this place of feeling at peace with where I am, expecting to receive my dream, & excited exhilaration to spread my wings & soar to a prosperous new life and marriage!" *Names and essential identifying details have been changed to safeguard the confidentiality of this client.   The essence of her story and results are true , Susan* is a divorced mother of 2, who contacted me three years after her divorce.  All her life, she has always wanted and dreamed of her own “Happily Ever After” marriage and family, and was devastated by her divorce.  Three years after the final decree, though she had learned to cope, the pain, guilt, anger and grief she felt inside was still intense. She sought out help to let go of the intense pain from the past, learn the lessons that were there for her to learn, and be able to go forward in her life with joy and confidence, and create the Happily Ever After marriage she knows she is destined for. Together we worked to find and heal the invisible roots of her relationship problems, especially to help her learn the lessons that were there for her to learn from her divorce, and to gain the inner core of confidence that comes to women when we are securely anchored in our true selves.  Susan is committed to her dream, and she worked with focus to release and heal the pain, anger, guilt and grief from her past marriage, find and embrace her True Self, and claim the birthright to her happy marriage that is her dream and destiny. As she was completing her Happily Ever After! program, Susan wrote: "Thank you so much Debra. I appreciate all of your help in getting me to this place of feeling at peace with where I am, expecting to receive my dream, & excited exhilaration to spread my wings & soar to a prosperous new life and marriage!" *Names and essential identifying details have been changed to safeguard the confidentiality of this client.   The essence of her story and results are true     The wisdom and insights I have gained, coupled with healing of the hidden causes of relationship  conflict, and practical Flourish Self-care and Relationship-care Skills are combined in my unique and exclusive, one-of-a-kind specialty Flourish Life and Relationship Coaching™ programs of transformational healing & growth.   I can empower you with lasting solutions, and the secrets to creating the eternal marriage of your dreams, in the real world.  You can find the answers and solutions that you seek.  The eternity of married love that you yearn for, and that the Temple promises, can be yours.      From my office in Texas, I provide coaching, classes, telecourses and workshops for women and men from through out the state, in Utah, California, Colorado, Arizona, and through out North America.  Contact me today for your Creating Eternal Love! consultation.  Only a few openings are available at any one time, so I hope you will contact me today to begin.                                                                          Warmly, Debra Debra Brown Gordy, MS MRET LDS Life & Relationship Coach Author of the forth-coming book,  Cinderella Wisdom:  A Woman's Journey of Spiritual Healing to Sacred Marriage.

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